acceptance

The single most important and powerful moment of my life, ever

I’ve just written a response to someone that left a comment on one of my old blog posts, their partner died within a 36 hour period, no time to say […]

Pain – thank you for your service

It’s weird, nowadays I usually have a clear idea of what I’m going to talk about when I sit down to write, it’s been some four years since I felt the […]

Climbing the mountain of grief

Sometimes, when we begin our journey into grief and loss we see the huge mountain of this life we need to live rising up in front of us… massive, craggy, […]

A Lesson of Longing or Acceptance

When our partner dies we often ask ourselves the question “when will I feel normal again?” or “when will I stop feeling like this?”. I think there is a great […]

When will the pain stop?

When will the pain stop? When will I stop feeling like THIS? Both questions I hear many times  from widows and widowers. Claire and I were together for almost 30 […]

Swimming

The journey I am on is a journey with a very distinct beginning, yet it is a journey without an end. Imagine walking down the beach towards the sea, taking […]

This too shall pass

I feel very strongly that I have turned a corner, a corner of acceptance, not necessarily acceptance of losing Claire but acceptance of the emotions attached to that. I’m still […]

Life as a Book

“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be […]

What is grief?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this recently. I spend a lot of time online which is good from the point of view of finding out information, and bad because […]

Change Time

I know from my training as a coach that we create emotional problems (phobias, fear, anger etc) when there is a massive change, or significant emotional event, in our lives […]