My Journey
My name is Mark Oborn and I’m not really sure what this website is all about. My beautiful, adoring and childhood Sweetheart wife of 22 years, Claire Oborn, died suddenly and completely unexpectedly on Wednesday 17th April 2013 aged 43.
She was apparently fine at 0830 but by 1900 she was gone.
This website is dedicated to her, my 4 children, my 1 grandchild our family and really to helping me through the healing process by keeping a record of how far I’ve – in fact the honest truth is that setting up this site has been a welcome distraction and given me something else to focus on for a few hours.
I loved that girl with every fibre of my body, the grief and pain of her death are unlike anything I’ve experienced before, she was my sunshine, my life, my passion, my everything.
Bursting The Bubble
The Story of Being “Lost Without Her”
A book about growing through tragedy & loss.
We all build bubbles around our lives, we build bubbles of assumptions about what will happen, we build bubbles that tell us everything will be okay, we build bubbles that give the world meaning, we build bubbles around the security of our marriage, we build bubbles around the security of other relationships… And sometimes those bubbles burst.
When Claire died it left me cold, alone, and dark – I was lost without her. My therapy was writing, and this is my story.
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This life I have now feels so different to the one I had before
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I’ve been there, I’ve been to the depths, I’ve cried uncontrollably, I’ve been raging angry and I’m still alive. Subscribe below and I’ll send gentle e-mails with words of encouragement, support, and practical things you can do to help deal with this pain we feel. As fellow grievers, we’re here and we’re thinking of you.