When we have a huge amount of pain the temptation is to say that we suffer. I think there’s a huge difference between recognising the fact of our loss, acknowledging […]
All posts by mark oborn
Married at 23, widowed at 45. I've learned so much through this terrible process and just getting it down in this blog helps not only myself but others understand more about what happens when our partner dies. Thinking of you all!
Coping with a wedding anniversary after spouse’s death
On the day of writing this it is my wedding anniversary. It would’ve been 30 years today, and I have to say Claire and I had genuinely a most wonderful […]
How to overcome waves of grief
Grief often hits me in waves of sadness, and it can be difficult riding the waves of grief… Here’s a little technique that I found to be really useful in […]
Grief and Kintsugi – Adding to The Beauty of What Was
The Japanese art form called Kintsugi 金継ぎ “golden joinery” is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with lacquer that is dusted or mixed with powdered gold, silver or platinum. […]
Do widows celebrate a wedding anniversary? – You bet we do!
TRANSCRIPT:Hello, and welcome to a video from me, Mark at Lost Without Her. It’s been quite some considerable time since I posted a video. And as ever these are motivated […]
Advice for grief
I’m absolutely blown away by this. I asked a simple question on twitter: “If you were to give a single piece of advice to a new griever on their journey, […]
How to deal with the pain of a loved one dying
Sometimes these things just come to me, this was one of those times, so I created a video… Transcript I just want to share a little technique that I use […]
Book about grief
What an incredibly strange couple of weeks it’s been. I’m writing this as we come out of the Covid-19 lockdown, it’s been a time of social isolation and not much […]
50 Random Acts of Claireness
This September would have been Claire’s 50th birthday, and I’d like you to celebrate with me… So, I’d like to share with you an idea. But first, a little history… […]
#AfterLife by @rickygervais – One word. PAIN.
last night I watched the entire first series of AfterLife on Netflix. 3 hours of back-to-back episodes. Tears were streaming within 10 minutes of episode 1… And still haven’t stopped this morning. I […]