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When will the pain stop?

When will the pain stop? When will I stop feeling like THIS? Both questions I hear many times  from widows and widowers. Claire and I were together for almost 30 […]

Day Zero

For the year after Claire died I wrote so many blog posts and every one of those contained so much pain. In recent times the blog posts have been more […]

The paradox of death and living

When someone close to us first dies we can be lost in the depths of grief and despair and unable to think beyond the next second. Every second is pain. […]

Forever Doesn’t Exist

When Claire and I got married we thought we would be together forever, but what does forever really mean? If you are with someone you love, do you really think […]

Happy Silver Wedding Anniversary My Love

On this day, 25 years ago, I married my childhood sweetheart. My my, things have worked out rather differently to what we planned. It’s the 15th June every year that […]

grief awareness week

Children’s Grief Awareness Week

I’ve not written many blog posts here recently, but I feel compelled to do so as part of children’s grief awareness week, which is currently running in the UK. I’m […]

2 Years

The last time I wrote a blog post was exactly one year ago. It’s now two years since Claire passed away and I’m still getting so many people contact me […]

The End

It’s been a year to the day that Claire left this world, a year to the day that my life changed irrevocably. It’s been quite a journey this past year […]

I wish…

I wish… Actually I don’t. I refuse to go down the thought pattern of “I wish…” there are so many possibilities that I could wish for, I could wish Claire […]