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So quickly the darkness descends

And so quickly the darkness descends. Like those parachute games the children play, flapping them up and down by little handles on the corners, sometimes you’re completely wrapped up in […]

Remembering Claire

Beautiful fading pebbles

As with so many of these posts I don’t really know where this one is going. I know there is something inside which needs saying, but I’m not sure exactly […]

Aleks

Pain – thank you for your service

It’s weird, nowadays I usually have a clear idea of what I’m going to talk about when I sit down to write, it’s been some four years since I felt the […]

Climbing the mountain of grief

Sometimes, when we begin our journey into grief and loss we see the huge mountain of this life we need to live rising up in front of us… massive, craggy, […]

One Final Act

It was a strange day on Saturday. We scattered Claire’s ashes, finally, 4 years after she died. She had an absolute love for Cornwall, particularly one specific small beach near Falmouth. I […]

A Lesson of Longing or Acceptance

When our partner dies we often ask ourselves the question “when will I feel normal again?” or “when will I stop feeling like this?”. I think there is a great […]

When will the pain stop?

When will the pain stop? When will I stop feeling like THIS? Both questions I hear many times  from widows and widowers. Claire and I were together for almost 30 […]

Day Zero

For the year after Claire died I wrote so many blog posts and every one of those contained so much pain. In recent times the blog posts have been more […]

The paradox of death and living

When someone close to us first dies we can be lost in the depths of grief and despair and unable to think beyond the next second. Every second is pain. […]