When someone close to us first dies we can be lost in the depths of grief and despair and unable to think beyond the next second.
Every second is pain.
But as time goes on we find we can live two seconds before the pain hits us again, then it turns to minutes, then hours, then days.
We still think about the person we have lost 24/7 but we don’t experience that deep depth of despair every second like we used to.
And yet, the true paradox is that living second by second is truly living. If we focus on the now then nothing else matters and we are truly alive, living for the moment.
Paradoxically, that deep depth of despair, second by second living can also be a path to truly living, if we let it!
What a paradox!